Friday, January 4, 2008

Thankful

Today I struck up a conversation at the library with a mid-40's New Jersey gal city gal transplanted to backwoods Wisconsin. As we narrated the fight between our 2 yr olds at the playtrain, she mentioned she had lost her 5 yr old son to cancer.

I looked at 5 yr old Cedar.

As I processed her words and the ramifications, I asked her, "Do you ever heal from a childs death or do you just soften?" She said, "You never heal."

I just struggle to comprehend...

4 comments:

Liz said...

I cannot even fathom losing my dear son! We were in a car accident because of this crazy Indiana snow a few weeks back and while it was not serious, it very well could have been- Having something like that happen is just a fresh reminder of the fragilty of life and it was really caught my attention!

kristie said...

It too, catches my attention, being a mom of a child who once had cancer. And the whole while we went through that experience, I never once thought about death. Not once. So the shock, no, I cannot imagine. Even having lived through something similar, with a good ending, I cannot even fathom...

kristie

Jenny W said...

when skylar was 13 months old we were in the emergency room waiting room because she was having yet another seizure and they had kicked us out of triage. bob ducat prayed for us as i layed on the floor crying "Jesus please don't let my baby die." thankfully He answered that prayer and Skylar is fine, but that day will never leave me; and IT had a happy ending. i can't imagine the days other parents have that don't turn out as well.

Elizabeth F. said...

I cannot imagine either. Alogn the saem topic...last year I found a fellow mama's blog: http://hannahandlily.blogspot.com/
and she was just living her life normally and blogging away...then her next post was that her daughter Hannah who was 5 drowned when they were at the beach. The previous post was a video of Hannah dancing around the living room and singing. It shook me to the core. I kept going back and forth between the 2 posts. I still read her blog daily, and she uses her blog as a journal of her grief process and to remember Hannah. Go check it out. Here's the orginal post- http://hannahandlily.blogspot.com/2007/07/dancing-queen.html