Sunday, December 17, 2006

What the......?

Tonight Cedar was praying with his face smashed in the pillows. Through the weird 4 yr old ramblings I hear, "...bless the people on the roads, help us learn, help daddy play poker...". WHAT THE...?

On another note...Is there anything cooler than having people in your home? Of course there is always the pre-cleaning hubbub, the post visit cleaning and keeping your kids from burning down the Barbie Hot wheel garage... But, my Lord - to risk and find connections with people who just acquaintances or to laugh until you're running to the bathroom before you pee your pants or to bust out the guitars and be silly or even to worship. To be or to build community - it is just so satisfying!

Pondering: What are the differences between what makes a women feel safe to be her true self and what makes a make feel safe.

11 comments:

Larky Park said...

That would be"..what makes a MAN feel safe?"

Lora Maria said...

Just a thought with little to no basis: I sure can't speek for the men, but I think a woman feels safe in her own right, not so much based on others. I think if a women feels safe about themself and their identity, and they LOVE themself, they will feel safe sharing who they are with other people. It's when we begin to doubt ourselves deep inside that we introvert and keep to ourselves for fear of being found and pointed out as fools. Maybe???

Bill Sergott said...

Your son should pray for your husband to be better at playing poker. WOW!!

Anonymous said...

I, as a woman, feel safe when I can connect with someone on a gut level...share intimate details of my life...not have them run the other way and be free to express my love for them in my own way. Freedom. Unconditional love and acceptance. I struggle with this loving myself thing...so maybe I am wayyyy off base here. I still am trying to figure men out...do you mean men feeling safe with men or men feeling safe in general?

Larky Park said...

I think when a woman's voice/thoughts are heard and affirmed it creates a sense of value. Being valued breathes into a sense of being loved. True love repeated seems to create safety. Boundaries also seem to play into safety/security.

When Levi first led worship the things I felt most impacted by were passion, freedom and security. It seemed at as the desire or passion for the Father created a communal sense of a love boundary that then allowed for the deepest passions of our hearts to be safely exposed and couched in absolute freedom.

Any thoughts?

Anonymous said...

I know I rarely feel safe when I'm playing poker. But then, maybe that's the attraction. Levi?

As a male, I have to notice that I notice when I DON'T feel safe. The majority of the time I just feel safe, whether I truly am, or not.
Wow. Deep, huh?

Ogg make fire now.

Anonymous said...

uh...I didn't get much sleep last night...I am lost! We'll talk tonight! Love ya!

Glass Half Full said...

How true!! It is exhausting ESPECIALLY with kids, but worth the effort.

And Cedar's prayer -- so cute!

Chaddo said...

a man feels safe when someone cheers him on even if he's dreaming up some hairbrained scheme that looks like it would be sure to fail. at least I do

teresa aportela sergott said...

I wouldn't know. Bill & I aren't cool enough to be invited to your house anymore...

On another note, what makes me feel safe is stability. And part of that for me is time. Depth takes time to establish and it takes commitment. Once I sense the commitment, I feel the stability and then I feel secure.

Elizabeth F. said...

I think it is just plain old maturity. The older I get, the more that I have learned to accept my whole self (even the parts that I don't like) and to surround myself with people that I can be "me" around. Lastly, just to have guts to be ok with yourself when others are not.